Straitjacket Sam (straitjacket) wrote in imnotsorry,
Straitjacket Sam

I'm not sorry I had a surgical abortion. But I have lied to my friends and family about it.

In August 2006 I found out I was 6 weeks pregnant. I was 27 and felt 'mature' enough to face the responsibility of raising a child. However, my boyfriend and I had only been together a couple months and I was still in university. I had always been pro-choice, but faced with the reality of an unplanned pregnancy I did not know what to do. 

After several days of discussion, my boyfriend and I decided on having an abortion. We went to the clinic together, and afterwards he brought me home and took care of me, though I felt completely fine. The procedure had been virtually painless and I experienced only mild nausea afterwards.

When I found out that I was pregnant, I told my mother and two close friends. Though I knew they would love me no matter what, though I knew they would support me no matter what, I was too ashamed to tell them that I had had an abortion. I lied to them and told them that I had miscarried.

It is now 7 months later. Ever since I had the abortion I have felt content in knowing that I made the right decision. My boyfriend and I are still happily together. We often talk about getting married in a few years and starting a family. I'm not sorry that I had an abortion, and I now realize that I had no reason to feel shame about having had an abortion either. There is a part of me that would really like to tell my mother and friends the truth. I feel wrong about having lied to them. Perhaps, though, it's best to let sleeping dogs lie. I don't want to (potentially) upset anyone needlessly.

Has anyone else had concerns or fear regarding telling others about their experience?

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